Each person experiences periods when he is acutely aware of the need for change. Only after receiving an honest result will a person understand in which direction he should move on.
Important: when searching for answers to these questions, there should be no shadow of self-flagellation. This is a sincere conversation with oneself; reproaches cannot be present in it.
10. What makes me angry?
Anger is a basic human emotion, it must not be suppressed, but controlled. But it’s hard to manage what you fear and don’t understand. Do not be ashamed of anger, ask yourself the question: what causes it to you? Record for yourself cases when anger boils in you. This is done according to the situation-anger scheme. When you feel a surge of rage, you should not rush with reproaches either to someone else's or to your side. Take a look at yourself and the situation “from above” and mentally explain it according to the described plan.
9. How do I live?
Before you make a difference, you need to understand what you want to fix. Break this question into smaller questions by looking at your life from the side: how is your day going? What are your habits? How much time does it take you to do your usual activities (work, household chores)? What do you eat, what do you do? Who are your friends, how do you treat them and family, why do you do this, and so on. Learning the answers is important. Firstly, you will become more attentive to yourself. Secondly, you will understand what you need to work with, and what suits you, on the contrary.
8. Does the place where I live bring me joy?
The environment affects the person. It determines his habits, behavior and partly worldview. Depressive environment brings up the same depressed person and vice versa. The area, city and even the country where he lives also affect. There is no right or wrong mentality, and if you feel miserable in the place where you live, this is normal.
The answer to this question is that conclusion from the previous that you will make. If the place where you live does not bring you any joy, move to another. Get rid of external negative influences.
7. Am I satisfied with my work?
This question excites people most often. We spend 8 hours a day at work. Another 8 hours (normal) we sleep. And only the remaining third day we dispose freely. In addition, almost the entire conscious age is given to the work. That is why the way we spend a third of our conscious life greatly affects our condition.
Answer yourself if you are satisfied with the work, what you like and what not. What are you ready to close your eyes at work, and what haunts you. This will help you better understand yourself, your abilities and preferences.
6. Perhaps I'm too worried about what others will think?
A person is a social being, so it’s completely natural to worry about the attitude of friends, colleagues or just acquaintances towards you. Problems come when a person is obsessed with someone else's opinion of himself.
Observe how you feel in society, what you say, do and think. See how often you think of the rest when doing something personal, from solving family problems to choosing clothes. This will help answer the question of how much you worry about the attitude of others around you.
Remember: you know yourself better than anyone up to the family. Only you can understand the reasons for your actions. In fact, others do not care about you. It’s worth it to relate more simply to their condemnation or approval - it’s all the same to live with the consequences of the decisions made not for them, but for you.
5. What is my relationship with myself?
A person’s relationship with himself affects his perception of life. And it doesn’t matter who he is or what he has achieved in life. If a person is with him in the world, he will boldly look into his eyes with fears, critically look at his own and others' actions, understand their reasons and correct any mistakes. One who has a good relationship with himself, is able to forgive himself and others, is not dramatized, calmer in adversity and believes in himself.
Answer: in what tone do you speak to yourself in thoughts? What comes to mind in various situations? How do you react to your successes and mistakes? How much do you trust yourself? If the result is disappointing, be sure to work on it.
4. What kind of memory do I want to leave about myself?
People spend a lot of time in "sleep" mode. They do everything “on the machine”, instantly and rashly react to stimuli, are driven by primitive desires and do not realize what they are achieving with their actions.
Imagine being remembered. How would you like to appear at that moment? Let this image become an ideal, on which you will look back, performing certain actions.
3. What part of my life do I ignore?
It is difficult to keep in mind everything that happens. A person concentrates on that part of life in which he needs to achieve success, at this time the rest goes out of sight.
Think: what makes up your life? What and to the detriment of what are you focusing on? For example, you are fixated on a career and do not think about family relationships and vice versa. Prioritizing is right, but don't neglect the rest.
2. What have I always wanted to do, but did not allow myself?
Dreams appear in childhood. People often put them aside or forget. Someone always dreamed of playing the guitar, but refused to do so because he considered his hearing to be bad or was afraid of failure. Or dreamed of becoming an artist, but believed that he had no talent.
Remember all your desires, even if they seem to you meaningless, and write down. Try to bring it to life. If it doesn’t work out, you won’t lose anything, but you can gain a lot.
1. What am I willing to let go?
The last question takes more time. Everyone has situations from the past or people whose memories are disturbing and haunting. But they enter a new life without the burden of past mistakes or problems. Think about what and who you are ready to let go, without which you want to live in your new, more perfect life?