Everyone knows that there are no ideal people. Someone suffers from harmful addictions, others do not keep their word, others do not know how to control emotions.
What to say and how to behave in the presence of peers is the personal choice of every adult. However, when a child appears in the family, no matter what way of life all the household members lived before his birth, they are obliged to adhere to certain rules in the process of raising this small creature so as not to harm their own child.
Parents for a child are the most dear, beloved people, and at the same time they are role models. Next to them, the baby copies their behavior, vocabulary and lifestyle.
And as you know, a bad example is contagious, so children quickly learn all the negative features of adults who are next to them.
Do you want to develop evil inclinations in your children with your own mistakes? Then you will come in handy 10 tips from psychologists about what should never be done with a child.
10. Lying
Of course, many will say that this is physically impossible, because all people lie with different frequencies. However, here we are talking about a broken word or outright lies to a third party that your child is watching.
In this case, do not expect your beloved child to be honest with you, because by demonstrating your lies, you will show the child that there is nothing wrong with that. Therefore, in the future he will lie to you for any reason, without experiencing any remorse.
9. Challenge the decision of the spouse
Such tactics in the upbringing of the baby will lead to the fact that the parent pulling the blanket over himself will develop in the baby a tendency to hypocrisy. In addition, he will not respect his parents.
If you think that humiliating a spouse, challenging his decision with a child, you gain authority in the eyes of a small creature, you are mistaken. He will not take your words seriously either, and having matured, he will begin to look for role models elsewhere.
8. Argue with spouse
In the early years of his life, a child tends to perceive his parents as a whole. Therefore, despite the fact that mom and dad are two independent individuals with their own views on the upbringing of children, they must be in agreement with the child.
Otherwise, the baby will lose such a necessary sense of security, and in the future, it is likely that he will not have solid moral attitudes.
7. Raise your voice and swear
Quarrels and misunderstandings occur in any family, and not everyone succeeds in avoiding this. However, every loving parent should know that in no case can you sort things out in the presence of the baby.
Based on observations of parents, the baby forms an idea of behavior with representatives of the opposite sex. Also, if mom and dad begin to quarrel with him, then the child is frightened and along with this, his psychological stability begins to collapse.
6. Use foul language
Knowing this world, huge and full of various phenomena, the child copies the behavioral models of adults, including their vocabulary.
If a young child at least once hears how you use an obscene word or expression in your colloquial speech, he will definitely remember it and voice it. It is difficult for kids to explain what can be said and what cannot.
5. Sit in gadgets
Modern technology makes our life much easier, but sometimes it takes too much of our time. Even an adult is very difficult not to lose control of themselves and observe moderation in visiting the virtual space.
Well, children in most cases are completely unable to dose communication with gadgets. If the kids regularly see their parents “hang out” on social networks, watch funny videos, play computer games, they will just as well begin to move away from reality into the virtual world, and it will be very difficult to return them back.
4. Discuss others
When a small child is near adults, it is necessary to carefully monitor not only vocabulary, but also the content of their conversations. Children are not as stupid as it seems to most of us, they all hear perfectly. Moreover, they capture the intonation and emotional nuances of the conversation.
But the problem is that the child cannot yet be critical of the information received, especially if it comes from the mouth of his parents.
Therefore, if he hears something bad from his mother about dad, grandmother, kindergarten teacher, then irreparable damage will be done to his comfortable system of trusting adults. He can become unsociable and generally ceases to trust anyone.
3. Complain about life
Until a certain age, a child sees the world through the eyes of his parents. Including all sorts of assessments that a small person makes regarding any people or phenomena are also formed, as it were, through the prism of the personal relationship of mom or dad.
At a very early age, a child develops not only character, but also a view of life. If you unwittingly put black negativity into his young head with your complaints about life, then most likely you will get a lot of problems in the future. For example, this may relate to the child's communicative abilities, his emotional stability, and even intellectual development.
2. Demonstrate bad habits
Lectures on the dangers of smoking and alcohol are completely useless if parents allow themselves to drink alcohol and smoke in the presence of children. Some caring parents try by all means possible to hide their harmful addictions from their beloved child.
However, even if you like to indulge in addiction secretly, you do not need to be sure that the child will not sooner or later catch you red-handed. Remember, children do not understand everything, but on a subconscious level they always feel insincerity.
1. Ignore safety rules
All caring parents teach their children basic safety rules that apply to a wide variety of areas of life. This is certainly laudable, but you must bear in mind that you must strictly follow all the instructions given.
Otherwise, if you neglect your own prohibitions, the child may decide that this is a formal set of rules and it is not necessary to adhere to them. But such frivolity can lead to the most terrible consequences.